Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Thanks to all of you who gave me advice and recommendations before my husband’s knee replacement surgery – they helped me so much. It has been almost a month since I have been able to come on this site to read and post. I miss all of you. My husband had his total knee replacement surgery on Dec. 7th. I heard all of your concerns about the morphine before and after surgery, and I was able to talk them out of that. He had a nerve block and epidural instead. He was on a fentenal (sp?) auto pump instead. But there were still many problems, drug interactions and slow progress. While he was in the hospital I had to stay all night (we live an hour drive away from the hospital) until 5 or 6am, him gripping my hand for dear life, so he could try to sleep. His PD meds interfered with the pain drugs they were giving him, and he was having hallucinations and an awful feeling of uncontrollably falling backwards whenever he closed his eyes – even though he was laying on the pillows in bed. He would tightly grip my hand and try to go to sleep. After a while I would feel his grip ease off, but he would go thru bouts of panic thru the night. I asked and pleaded that the doctor/nurses change his pain drugs, but to no avail. The “pain team” told me that he needed the drugs. |
He went into a Rehab facility Dec. 10th (I didn’t think he was ready – so frail and weak). When he went to Rehab they switched to Percoset (sp.?) and the problem with falling backwards and hallucinations continued. I stayed until midnight or after every night. The next day he would invariably ask “when did you leave me?” I still had to go to work, take care of our home, dog, chickens, etc. I was there every minute I could be. Got hardly any sleep. But it was still not enough…… From the beginning they said he would come home on Dec. 29th – again earlier than I thought he would be ready. Guess it is a Medicare issue. I mistakenly (I should have known better) thought that maybe when he came home things would even out and I could breath again.
My sister, who has been an RN for 35+ years (lives in another state) told me to insist they switch him to Tylenol #3 and she knew the hallucinations and “falling backwards” would stop. Miracle of all miracles – two days before he was to come home from Rehab they reluctantly switched him to Tylenol #3 and indeed, all those awful symptoms stopped. He slept at night.
We have been home for two days. He is so dependent. So self absorbed. Today is our 28th anniversary, and he hasn’t hardly spoken to me all day. I have done everything I can for all the things he needs, and he just sits in his recliner watching his shows on TV. I got him up to walk (one of the things he is supposed to do at least once a day) for 10-15 minutes, but other than that he does not appear to be interested in doing anything or interacting at all. He doesn’t seem to even know I am in the room. I guess things are back to “normal”.
Next week his PT comes 3 times a week, OT once a week and Home Health aide 2 times a week. I am thankful for them.
He is healing – his leg looks much better. No more raging fevers or low, low blood pressures and the swelling is getting better. Hopefully this surgery will not have set him back with the PD symptoms. I hope he can get back to walking with his walking stick the 1 ˝ miles a day to the mailbox and back, gathering the chicken’s eggs once a day……
I think I am exhausted – sorry to be in such a negative mood…. I guess I was deluded in wanting a little glimmer of the “old” husband who I felt should be happy he had his most desired surgery over with, that he is able to walk with his walker, and that he is recovering at home now…..but no – I guess it is too much to expect – everything seems to be too much to expect…..
Thanks for being my sounding board…..Love and Hugs to all of you.