I am so sorry you, and your husband, are going through this. We never got to the point of police/emergency room - but came very close, on several occasions. |
It is terribly scary when the medication makes our loved ones morph into something very different. I found that over time, my husband's real personality returned - well, a lot of it, anyway. While he was on the high doses of requip, he had no insight into how his personality had morphed into something very different, and very scary. He also thought I was the enemy, so your comment that he doesn't want to seen you resonates.
While sometimes "looking on the bright side" seems a stretch when dealing with Parkinson's, this episode, as horrible as it was and is, may be a turning point where your husband's over medication stops, and you get your husband (or at least a recognizable version of him) back.
Consider whether you may want to use this as a reason to change whoever is prescribing his medications. This may or may not be possible, depending on what other doctors are available near where you live, your insurance, etc. - but sometimes doctors don't like admitting mistakes. Sometimes, they are very open - and something like this episode will shock them into listening to you from now on, and being more attentive to the risks of over medication.
You might also consider documenting this as much as you can - on your computer, letter to his physician, whatever works for you. Especially note the meds he was on when this episode occurred, his behavior before the episode and during it. This might give you ammunition if in the future those symptoms recur to get his medications lowered, in a gentler, less traumatic way.
Also - you may be familiar with the concept of "up-regulation" and "down-regulation". Essentially, the body is smart, and adjusts to the amounts of neurochemicals it normally gets. This is why addicts go through detox, and this is why your husband is going through it as well. It's hard on them, and hard on you, but it may help to cling to the thought that as rough as it is, it is the way to living better for both you and your husband.
It sounds reading between the lines of your post that this episode was probably pretty awful for you, too. If there's anything you can do to care for you - friends, relatives, phone calls, hot baths, flowers - do it. You need it, and you deserve it. Not just because your husband needs you strong to help him, but because you, your life is worth it. Good luck.