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By bksquared On 2015.01.04 17:59
I am frustrated. My PWP has balance issues. Every day something (or sometimes 2-3 things) else in the house is shattered or broken. He drops glasses or plates whether he is sitting and eating, picking something up off the counter, or getting something out of the cabinet. He has no tremor so that is not contributing the dropping and knocking thing over. He falls against a wall and shatters a picture frame or mirror. He smashes into a casement window and snaps off the handle. Okay so don't tell me the obvious -- he should use a walker or cane. He just won't do it in the house and very rarely outside of the house either. His neurologist and movement specialist have both told him to use a cane or walker. I can not put handrails on every wall and surface of the house either. Since he never winds up on the floor or hurt, he tells me he doesn't fall, just loses his balance. I told him I was putting the dishes away and using plastic or paper dishes and cups. Well that suggestion started a war. Guess when there is not a dish or glass left, he will have no choice but to use paper. I can't remove all the furniture in the house since he smashes into tables, knocks into lamps, and as stated above, even windows get demolished. Either he should be well or so sick he can't move - but this PD at early stage 2/3 makes him neither. The cognitive impairment makes it impossible to deal with him in a logical or rational way. Guess I am having a rant, but if I can't find a rubber house, I will need a rubber room soon for me. Thanks for listening.

By carman96 On 2015.01.05 09:35
I can relate. My husband doesn't break things, luckily, but won't use his walker or walking stick and falls all the time. He needs help getting up and I'm not sure how long I can do that. We have grab bars everywhere but will be use them when he starts losing his balance? No. Sometimes he falls between the toilet and the wall even though there are grab bars on each side.
He also has dementia so no reasoning with him. I am constantly cleaning up his messes.
I like the rubber house idea.

By jaxrock On 2015.01.05 10:09
I think you two live in our house!!
The sad thing is, my husband feels so badly when he breaks something...Makes him feel "useless", he says...
But, yes, plates, glasses - I do have to watch him when he eats or drinks....That must be terrible for him! I can't imagine being "watched" doing normal things around the house...
Quite a trip we're on, isn't it?

By bksquared On 2015.01.05 23:42
Glad I am not the only one facing these issues. Once I find the rubber house, my next thing to invent is a light for the top of his head. Tired of reaching to steady him and getting the "Why did you touch me?" When I tell him it looked like you might fall. He tells me well "I wasn't going to fall." I figure if He wears my light it would blink to alert me to a fall so this nasty comment would be avoided. LOL

By LOHENGR1N On 2015.01.06 00:53
Boy Jax you got that right it is awful to be watched all the time! We're grown men and women and stripped of our dignity it seems at times to Us. We move or try to and there at our elbow is someone grabbing us because they perceive us falling. Then if we go out in stores we see strangers looking in our direction and because of the conditioning of being watched we think they're staring at us so we'd rather stay home. If we try something we've got our shadow right there so why try anything but then we're labeled apathetic or depressed. We know you're trying and you're looking out for our well being but sometimes ask yourself how would you deal with the constant watching everything you do or how you move? On top of that it is wearing on patient and caregiver both and both end up resenting the other for it. Not trying to start a war here or singling out anyone we all do it to some extent or another. Just giving voice to the patient side. Take care, best of luck and hang in there

By jcoff012 On 2015.01.06 14:33
Al, I agree with the not watching so closely...well, in fact, I DO watch, I just turn away a lot! *I* hate being watched, so I imagine Carl does, too...

By jaxrock On 2015.01.06 17:20
Oh, I don't want to give the impression that I'm always watching him eating and drinking...and walking...but, when his symptoms flare and he's "off", I do need to be there near him.
Since he does not have external tremors, it's not the "shakes" that gets things broken....it's lack of coordination and balance. And some inability to focus.
I do try to give him a lot of space....because I realize how important that is....for all of us...
We each enjoy our privacy, and, so far, we've been able to maintain some of that......
Cheers for 2015!

By carman96 On 2015.01.08 04:19
Well I am getting sick of helping him up off the floor or ground. He could end up in a nursing home if he breaks his leg or hip.
Also worried I will hurt my back trying to lift him. All because he doesn't want assistance.
So that is why I watch him every second. He still falls though so obviously I can't prevent it.


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